Divorce advice for men – 8 ways to overcome the “Penalty of Divorced Men”

Like it or not, a divorce is a battle for almost every man who faces it. There are cultural issues at play here, including man’s own beliefs.

Here are 8 tips and tricks for men that will help you get over the divorce.

-Know your results. It is important that you know why you want the divorce.

It may have been a time of love, but now she is out of herself and you must take the same approach. This does not mean shouting matches. Stay calm, much of divorce is to keep your head together so that you could make reasonable choices and decisions.

-Stay away from the trial. 

I know a couple who spent thousands of dollars to fight over who will get the dog. You may love your dog, but you really do not want to fight about it. The only ones who win are the lawyers.

-Manage your own case. 

You can have a lawyer but you should to manage your case yourself. Your lawyer can be a good one, but you are the person most interested in your divorce. Do not try to outsource it, but to understand the process. If you and your wife are not communicating to each other and are not friendly any more to each other, consider a possibility of some mediator’s or counselor’s assistance. If you decide to do so,it will help you to understand the divorce process even deeper (I mean that you would have the opportunity see the process from your wife’s prospective). Know that women file for divorce at twice the rate as men.

-Keep positive. 

More than one divorce has been lost because a man has become depressed. Do whatever it takes to get you out of that. See the future as you want it to be after the divorce and to keep this vision in mind. If you are strong enough this will not only keep you positive, but it will also attract this result.

Best remedy for the man in the middle of a divorce hassle is to date new women (the more the better), meet old friends and do things you did not have time for lately or you wife did not let you.

There is life after death, as well as there is life after marriage  – Hebrew saying, my free translation